Pregnant & Considering Adoption
What’s the Difference Between Putting a Child up for Adoption & Giving a Child Up for Adoption?
Putting my baby up, placing my baby, giving up my baby - no matter how you say it, if you are pregnant and thinking that adoption is the right choice for you and your baby, know this -
1) You are not alone.
2) Nothing is wrong with you.
3) You are not a bad person.
4) I am here to help you.
Learn about Positive Adoption Language here.
What’s Important for You to Know about Working With Adoption Services & Law Group
What Adoption Means.
It is important to me as an adoption attorney that you understand what adoption means for you and your child. First, however, you must know how the adoption process works to get to that point. Once you are clear on what the adoption process is, I will guide you as you develop a personalized adoption plan to meet your needs. Your adoption plan will include: a budget for financial support, picking the adoptive family that will adopt your child, determining how much contact you want to have with the adoptive family and baby, and post-placement support and communications.
How Adoption Can Make You Feel.
While there is no “right” decision regarding your unplanned pregnancy, some women believe that carrying their baby to term and placing them with another family will give them a sense of purpose during this confusing time. For some women, adoption is a way to feel positive about their unplanned pregnancy, giving them a sense of fulfillment and pride. Remember, however, the only “right” unplanned pregnancy option is the one that is right for you. Adoption is the “better” choice only if you think you will feel better about this choice than you would about any other.
When Can You Start?
No matter where you are in your pregnancy, if you contact me, I will help you begin the process as soon as you are ready. I will take your information, send you adoptive family profiles and help you move forward with the process as quickly as possible, but remember, you always have the chance to change your mind.
Though the adoption is official and permanent after you have signed your consent and the finalization has occurred, you will never forget or cease to be affected by the adoption process. Even when there is a virtual certainty that adoption is the right thing to do, it remains a difficult and emotional process for many birth mothers.
The Adoption Process
in Kansas
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Contact Adoption Services & Law Group by calling or texting me at (785) 217-4603 or emailing me at lisa@theadoptiongroup.com.
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I am excited to meet you and get to know your situation. I can come to you, meet you somewhere comfortable, or we can meet on the phone or via Zoom. At this first meeting, I will ask that you bring proof of pregnancy, such as a letter confirming your pregnancy written by a medical professional.
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I will give you all the paperwork to put together your adoption plan. Your adoption plan will include making important decisions regarding the adoption and a financial budget for your needs. Through the planning, it is also important that you find a doctor and begin prenatal care.
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The matching process begins! I have many adoptive family profiles for you to choose from. Once matched, you will receive financial support and a secure place to live (if needed). Depending on the level of openness, you can meet the adoptive family and maintain communication throughout your pregnancy.
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You will create a birth hospital plan before your delivery date. You will make decisions about who will be at the hospital, holding and naming the baby, as well as your care. The baby will leave the hospital with the adoptive family. You will also give your final consent.
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You and the adoptive family will have agreed to post-placement communication, which will vary and, at a minimum, include pictures and letters via a web-based program. Expenses will continue to be paid for 6 weeks after delivery. Counseling and emotional support will be available to you as needed.
Giving Up My Baby for Adoption in Difficult Circumstances
Please don't worry. I can, and I will help you.
If you are homeless and pregnant and considering adoption, I can help. I will make sure you are in a safe environment with a roof over your head.
If you are addicted to drugs or alcohol, I can help. I will get you in touch with counselors or into a treatment program. I will not judge you, and you will not get in trouble. Instead, I will help put an adoption plan in place before birth, reducing the risk of your baby being taken away and put in the system. So adoption might be a better option.
If you are in an abusive situation, do not know the baby’s father, have been sexually assaulted, or are not ready to be a single parent, I can help. I will work with an unknown or uncooperative birth father to make sure your wishes are respected — an adoption is still an option for you. I can help make plans and take necessary legal steps.
If you are already parenting and you know adoption is the right choice for this unplanned pregnancy, I can help. I will help work out the details of an adoption plan if you know another baby is not an option.
If you are a teenager or college student and you know parenting a child is not an option right now, I can help. I will help you find the perfect family for your baby. Young women may find themselves in an unplanned pregnancy; parenting or terminating the pregnancy are not options. Adoption is a loving, healthy choice that will allow you to finish your education while giving your child the life they deserve.
